What is going on with the current generation? I know that I have turned into my mother but I don’t seem to understand the value system or lack thereof from the young women 18 and above these days. Again, I realize that every generation pushes the envelope but to totally eliminate previous traditional values and morals would seem to break down the moral fabric of the family and society. Where has my generation gone wrong? Can we fix it? Well, I don’t know if “we” can fix anything at this point. NO….I am not indicating that we the older generation should judge our now young adult women. But we as the wiser ones should make ourselves available to our now young women to guide them into making better life decisions. Which is why it was important for me to instill the following 3 characteristics of self confidence, moral character, and the ability to think for herselfamong others into my now young adult daughter of 22.
These characteristics sound very simplistic but they seem to be lost today from our young women. I don’t know where our young women seem to lose their self-worth but it is time they got it back. Once the young lady reaches 18, she is considered an adult and in a lot of cases on her own. So my suggestions are only given to help guide them into making better decisions.
Every young woman should know her value and feel some sort of self-worth. She should know that she is more than a body but a person, a person that should not be used or abused for any reason. She should feel that she can accomplish anything she focuses on.
Belief in one’s self is important for our young women of today to become whomever they aspire to be or do in their future. It takes confidence to take the next step when someone is telling you, you can’t do that, you can’t have that, or you can’t become that. It is her confidence that will cause her to persist and continue to push toward that goal she has set for herself. This same confidence will enable her to overcome all challenges and help to achieve that she has set out to accomplish.
Now moral character in my opinion is one of personal belief. Her belief system will more than likely be based upon what she was taught as a child or not. In my case, of course old school, I was taught certain things such as you got married before sex and children, you attended church, and the woman took care of the home and children. However, I am well aware that times have changed as well as its value systems. But I would say overall I have maintained somewhat of the same belief system with modifications and passed them down to my daughter. She of course has modified them again to suit her needs. Which, I am typically fine with that because I am confident in the method I used to parent her as a young child and I want her to be her own person.
The belief that I am a person of value and worth, I am special, and I will not allow anyone to treat me this way or that way are what I call universal ideals that should appeal to everyone. This idea of placing value on personal ideals of treatment should assist our young women in many life decisions they may become faced with during the course of their life.
Everyone has a different value system and I am not here to judge. I am merely saying that I believe it is important to instill some type of belief in our daughter’s so they may develop into the women of our future so that they are capable of picking up where we will undoubtedly leave off.
Think for her-self
The ability to think for her-self is very important to our young adults and especially to our daughters. I don’t believe anyone is told what they can do or cannot do to anyone more than our young adult women. I use to hear all the time that it’s a man’s world and women should stay in their place. Well, I am glad that notion has changed because the lines have become increasing blurry in the area of career fields for males and female genders. Again, I am not here to judge just stating that everyone has her own path to follow and she will not be able to follow that path if she does not think for herself.
I am in no way suggesting that all of our young women are behaving and conducting themselves without moral character, self-confidence, or mindlessness. I am just pointing out some characteristics I feel that have been neglected in some of the young women of today. With the mindset of anything goes in our society, it appears to me that a lot of our young women have gotten lost and lost sight of themselves for this reason or that one. But I am confident that this generation of young adult women will find their way just as we found ours when we were their ages.
The future belongs to them. We had our chance. So I guess we must allow them to have thiers.