I am no different from many others that had plans for my life. You know the usual, going to college, getting married, having a killer career, having a family and retiring to enjoy my golden years doing whatever I want. I know this sounds very ‘baby boomerish’ and what can I say. I am not a baby boomer but I was born right after so my values sort of reflect the same.
Then Life Happened.
Now to life….well my life did not happen exactly the way I had planned. Where can I start? The then ‘unthinkable’ happened. I got pregnant while attending community college and working, thought what to do now? I pondered this question for a while. At 21 this was pretty big. My family wasn’t too enthused and my mom wasn’t quite ready to be a grandmother but Life Happened. I had to heed the call.
What did I do? I got married. Yes I married my child’s father and was looking forward to happiness and bliss because I did love my children’s father. Did I have the white picket fence and everything that goes with it? Well, not with this husband I did not. Ha Ha! Anyway, I am getting ahead of myself. I got married and we had another child. By this time I have a boy and a girl. Two beautiful children if I may say so myself.
Let’s move on. It wasn’t working with the children’s father so I got a divorce and remarried. My current husband and I have been married for 17yrs. I have finished my degree and have been working on my job for 25yrs. My mom is crazy about her now grown grandchildren.
So, did I complete my plan?
Okay…I gave you a glimpse into my world just to let you know that life does not have to go as you planned it but it will go anyway. The idea is to adjust and keep moving forward to your desired objective to the best of your ability.
In some cases you have to start anew and fresh with new plans. This is okay because a new start is sometimes the best start. Yes you may have lost a job, gone through a divorce or have been diagnosed with illness. Where do you start? Right where you are. You may be on a new path going in a different direction but as long as you maintain your objective and remain positive, solutions will surface for you to take advantage. No life situation will stop you from achieving that which you set out to accomplish if you don’t allow it.
It is my belief that everything is not supposed to happen the way we want it. If it did life would be boring. There are lessons to learn and surprises to enjoy and you may miss some of the best opportunities that you are not aware of because of your limited perspectives.
Life Happens to all of us.
It is not what happens to us that matters but how we deal with it. You may go through phases of unknown tragedies as well as unbelievable successes but it is how we deal with it that determines the quality of life.