Okay, I am not going to get racy nor will I become graphic because my mother reads my posts from time to time so I don’t want to embarrass myself. However, the topic of sex and menopause is a great thing at this stage in your life. Of course you have the ‘hot flashes’, the ‘mood swings’, and the feeling of restlessness on occasion just to name a few but the sex can be an opportunity to how can I say, well, I will just say it.
Sex at 40+ can be a wonderful thing!
There I have said it. Ha ha!
Why is sex so wonderful during your 40s, you ask? There are a number of reasons why so I will just touch on a few of ‘my reasons’. ‘My reasons’ may not be typical because every woman is different so just take my list to see if any of ‘my reasons’ resonate with you.
Sex Feels Good
First and foremost sex during your 40s just feels good. No, it not only just feels good but it is better! Sex is better at this stage of your life. Why? At this stage of your life you no longer have the guessing game. You are well aware of what sparks your emotion of intimacy and you are now comfortable with yourself.
In your earlier years you may have had feelings of inadequacy from a lack of experience. But once you get to your 40s that quickly fly out the window. Now you have feelings of confidence and self-assurance of what you want, what you like and what is totally unacceptable. It is this level of confidence of allowing your passion to flow and be comfortable with yourself and who you are along with your partner; that gives the relaxation you need to enjoy the process.
Sex is Good for You
You may be saying to say, no way! Or you may be saying to yourself, Yes, I knew it! Either expression is okay with me because I had both when I read it. Yes it has been documented by WebMd in an article titled ‘Sex and Health’ that sex is good for you.
In the article, it states that sex lowers your stress level and could improve your blood pressure, boost your immune system, burn calories; it could boost your self-esteem and allows you to sleep better. All of these are great points and I don’t feel the need to go any further but you may read the article to get the full perspective. Yeah, and this information is backed by science.
So why argue with science and just enjoy yourself.
Sex balances your hormones
You may wonder how it balances your hormones. Well, this may not be true for all women but I know it is true for me and a couple of my friends. When your hormones are running all over the place in some cases your sex drive is heightened. I am sure you have read or heard that women are at their sexual peak when they reach their 40s. This is potentially true.
During your 40s you may be finished with your childbearing years the way I was when I turned 40. So if this is the case, you no longer have the worries of getting pregnant, if you have taken the necessary precautions. Hallelujah! With this no longer being a potential problem, it allows you to become more comfortable with your sexuality if you are not already. When you are comfortable you are in more of a state of control and this control allows you seek out, ask for, in some cases demand the level of pleasure and desire you wish to experience. It is this demand that I think has brought about the popular term ‘cougar’.
The process of sex allows you to release the emotions that are running wild which are triggering the hormones that are driving you crazy. But once the emotion and hormones have been released and satisfied you return to a state of ‘grace’…haha.. or relaxation.
Sex improves relationships
Yes, I believe it improves relationships. Once you are relaxed and feeling confident it translates over into your relationships. It doesn’t matter which relationship but all of them. The relationship you have with various people just gets better.
You communicate better with those around you. If you are confident enough to express your feelings of need concerning your expectation of intimacy this confidence exudes in every area of your relationships with others. Your ability to talk with your girl-friends is more relaxed. Your ability to care for an ailing parent, grand-child, or even child is potentially stressed free all because your needs are being meet by communicating with those around you.
It Improves your Quality of Life
So overall, your whole quality of life is improved because you are happy.
You are happy because you are having sex during menopause on a regular basis which allows you to be more relaxed and calm.
A level of calmness allows you not to jump to states of aggression, frustration and anger because you are feeling more balanced. This balancing act allows you not to be totally (key word totally) seen as a ‘crazy emotional woman’.
Ha ha ha, I am by no means stating that you will not have a rage or two lurking in the wings somewhere. It is just that you may not be as likely to release it in frustration because you would have released it during mad, passionate, fun, exhilarating sex.
So if you doubt what I have expressed, well try it before you discard it. Ha ha ha, you just may like it.