Mr. Right does not exist

imagesCAVW2WUYIf you are single and dating you may be looking for what some call “Mr Right”. Does a “Mr Right” exist? What does “Mr Right” look like to you? Well, in my opinion, I know, here I go with my opinion again.

Anyway, it is my opinion that “Mr Right” does not exist.

No, he is not real. He is a factious image of our fantasy of what we believe is the perfect man.

Where does this image derive from? Good question. Our image of “Mr Right” permeates imagesCATRZ4MIfrom the knight in shining armor image we as women were told about as young girls in children stories. Stories such as Cinderella and Snow White depict a man coming into our lives and saving us from the horrors of our lives. These images of what “Mr Right” should look and act like maybe depicted from these stories. Of course as we have gotten older the Soap Opera’s only enhanced the ideal of “Mr Right”. We are now grown up and looking for the perfect man to sweep us off our feet with jewelry, flowers, romance, money, and all the things money can buy.

“Mr Right” simply cannot exist under these terms. It is time that women become more realistic in their expectations of what the “right man” look and act like. There are a few ideals that must be changed before “Mr Right” can be found.

First let’s begin by stating a universal ideal of the perfect man does not exist.

What should be considered is what man is perfect for you? What does this man act like? Consider the following points:
• What qualities are you attracted to
• Does he need to share certain interests of yours if so which ones
• Is it important to be of the same faith
• Should he share your desires of family or non-family
• Is it important to have chemistry
Upon considering the above points you may realize that the right guy is closer than you realize.

You must also realize that you can only attract the right man for you and not for your friends and family. It is so easy for the right guy to go unnoticed when we have so many unrealistic stipulations on behavior, physical attraction, and intellect. If you understand that you attract what you expect and what you are then it is best that you only expect from the man what you personify as a woman.

Don’t allow your girlfriends and family to determine the guy that is right for you, only you should be the judge. It is only fair for “Mr Right” to meet your criteria and only expect for friends and family to get to know him as time allows. It happens more often than not that a woman may overlook a guy only because a family member did not find him suitable only to realize that he may have been “Mr Right”.

When considering certain qualities you are attracted to make sure you are honest with yourself and not what is popular or what others expect. Every woman has different needs so make sure the man of your dreams embody the qualities you value the most.
It would be beneficial for you if “Mr Right” shared some of the same interests as yourself. It is the shared connection of interests and desires that make “Mr Right” right.

Are you willing to accept someone of a different faith? This question must be addressed when looking for your “Mr Right”. The ability to share in your faith, to walk the same path is a big concern for some individuals. You must decide how important this factor plays into your ability to accept someone who does not believe the same philosophy.

Is it important for your “Mr Right” to want children or not? Should family be a factor in the guy you are attracted too? The answer varies depending on the person you ask. Some women want children and some do not. While children may not be important but staying close with your family and the ability to deal with his family may be another factor. This must be considered and discussed when looking for your “Mr Right”.

Having chemistry between the two of you is most important. If there is chemistry you have a level of passion and desire that can be equally shared between the both of you for years to come.

Of course these points are not conclusive in finding “Mr Right” but they should put you on the right track. Yes, there are some match making programs that can be found online but they are only as correct in matching you with someone as the individual is willing to be honest.

Be open, genuine and yourself and there is no doubt that “Mr Right” will find you.

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About nextphasemom

I am a married mother of 2 college age children. Now that my children are grown attending college and working I find myself lost and wondering what to do with myself. In my loneliness I thought I would do what I love and that is write. Now that I am at retirement status I look forward to creating the next phase of my life. To start I am expressing myself through writing. It has always been relaxing for me so I thought I would share some of my thoughts. I am also a self-help fanatic and I try to live an inspired life daily. On occasion I am able to encourage and inspire those around me in a no nonsense way. For those that know me know that when you ask me for my opinion that you will get "the truth"; they know that if you don't want "the truth" don't ask me. No....I am not rude or abusive. I just point out ideas or points of interest that they have not considered or don't want to accept. A lot of my friends call me "the counselor". No..I am not a certified professional counselor but I love psychology. My degree background is business and I am employed in Customer Service. So talking to people on a regular basis is what I do to assist them in finding solutions. Well that is enough about me for now....to be continued because I am ever changing. Take your time to look around and please leave a comment so I will know that you stopped by...until then.
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